“Freedom begins the moment you recognize: this isn’t just life happening—it’s a pattern repeating.”
We don’t just live our lives—we live our patterns.
From early childhood, even before language, we are shaped by forces we do not choose: the unspoken wounds of our parents, the emotional atmosphere of our home, the messages we receive from culture, school, and religion. Slowly, layer by layer, a version of self is formed—one that learns how to survive, how to avoid pain, how to seek love, how to not feel.
This version of self becomes our identity. But it is not who we truly are.
Unless we stop to really see what’s running us, we are destined to keep repeating these unconscious loops. We may change partners, change cities, change careers—but if the underlying pattern remains unseen, nothing truly changes.
The spiritual path, if it is real, must involve a deep and honest looking. Not as a theory, but as a living inquiry. Can we see the pattern as it's playing out—in our reactivity, our avoidance, our addiction to drama, our need to control or be approved of?
And can we bring awareness to that pattern—not judgment, not analysis—but a quiet, spacious seeing?
That seeing is the beginning of freedom. Because you cannot surrender what you cannot see. But the moment you do see it, there is a crack in the loop. A breath. A gap where something new—something truer—can enter.
Awareness doesn’t fix you. It doesn’t solve the past. But it makes real change possible.
And that, for many of us, is the first step toward becoming whole.
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Thank you Kavi - beautifully expressed and so useful to read - along with listening to your talk on the subject of ingrained life patterns on Utube. I am looking at mine - and seeing when they are so ingrained, unhooking take true vigilance